Alright guys.  I got engaged 12/7/07.  Set the date for 8/30/08.  We are officially about 2.5 months away.  All the "big" stuff is done....but now it's thinking about the "rest of my life" after the big day. 

 

What advice do you guys have?  I'll take it all....serious, funny, happy, sad.

I'm curious to see what kind of marriages my fellow-psycho-Cowboys-fans have!

CowboyGirl1983:

Alright guys.  I got engaged 12/7/07.  Set the date for 8/30/08.  We are officially about 2.5 months away.  All the "big" stuff is done....but now it's thinking about the "rest of my life" after the big day. 

 

What advice do you guys have?  I'll take it all....serious, funny, happy, sad.

I'm curious to see what kind of marriages my fellow-psycho-Cowboys-fans have!

OK here goes.........IMO !  The three most important things in a marriage.  ( In no particular order )

1. Trust

2. Communication

3. Sex

Lacking in any of those depts. will put a strain on a marriage.  If you think sex is not important, I would say that infidelity is probably the # 1 marriage killer.  Money doesn't make my top three because it should be covered under communication !!  That's my take !

Best of Luck To You Guys !!!!!!!

Well, I married a girl that was not a Boys fan, not so much not a Boys fan, but just not a fan of football at all. You obviously don't have that to worry about. That's what I've spent the last ten years doing, converting her. She now watches the games with me and roots right along side me. She still isn't sure what offsides is, but that's okay.

Seriously, what I would tell you. Communicate, you have to talk to one another. The stupid fights will work themselves out if you can just talk to each other. 

 

Congratulations ! ! !  It looks like he will be a luck man ! ! ! !  I would advise that you guys live a little and establish yourselves before you have children. Your 30's will be the best time of your life so far.

My wife and I do everything together except watch football. That's got to be great.

CowboyGirl1983:

Alright guys.  I got engaged 12/7/07.  Set the date for 8/30/08.  We are officially about 2.5 months away.  All the "big" stuff is done....but now it's thinking about the "rest of my life" after the big day. 

 

What advice do you guys have?  I'll take it all....serious, funny, happy, sad.

I'm curious to see what kind of marriages my fellow-psycho-Cowboys-fans have!

Find out what both of you like to do and go do it togather often. We like fishing so we go fishing togather. And also no fighting especialy if yall have been drinking a lil that can cause major problems

BigDaddyBodine:

CowboyGirl1983:

Alright guys.  I got engaged 12/7/07.  Set the date for 8/30/08.  We are officially about 2.5 months away.  All the "big" stuff is done....but now it's thinking about the "rest of my life" after the big day. 

 

What advice do you guys have?  I'll take it all....serious, funny, happy, sad.

I'm curious to see what kind of marriages my fellow-psycho-Cowboys-fans have!

OK here goes.........IMO !  The three most important things in a marriage.  ( In no particular order )

1. Trust

2. Communication

3. Sex

Lacking in any of those depts. will put a strain on a marriage.  If you think sex is not important, I would say that infidelity is probably the # 1 marriage killer.  Money doesn't make my top three because it should be covered under communication !!  That's my take !

Best of Luck To You Guys !!!!!!!

Big Bump on the above

Almost forgot go get your grand kids often.You will find out how special they are when you get there.Has got to be one of the nicest parts of a marriage gone right

I am coming up on my first year anniversery... Its had ups and downs. Mostly ups! Communication is by far the biggest thing. Try to think before you spout off, as many of you know from my posts on here I fly off the handle from time to time. Same thing applies to marrige! Think think think!

Never retire for the evening angry at each other, and every morning, kiss each other, and tell your partner that you love them, before heading off to work, play, etc.

TarheelCowboy:

BigDaddyBodine:

CowboyGirl1983:

Alright guys.  I got engaged 12/7/07.  Set the date for 8/30/08.  We are officially about 2.5 months away.  All the "big" stuff is done....but now it's thinking about the "rest of my life" after the big day. 

 

What advice do you guys have?  I'll take it all....serious, funny, happy, sad.

I'm curious to see what kind of marriages my fellow-psycho-Cowboys-fans have!

OK here goes.........IMO !  The three most important things in a marriage.  ( In no particular order )

1. Trust

2. Communication

3. Sex

Lacking in any of those depts. will put a strain on a marriage.  If you think sex is not important, I would say that infidelity is probably the # 1 marriage killer.  Money doesn't make my top three because it should be covered under communication !!  That's my take !

Best of Luck To You Guys !!!!!!!

Big Bump on the above

Here here....but here's a bit more:

Be sure to be totally honest with each other, even if it hurts.  You may get mad, but you'll get mad respect.  Trust always follows because he'll know you'll never lie to him.  Take care of yourselves health wise to give yourself less to worry about and make sure you get in the "sack" regularly and don't say no.  Think about it.  Where's he going to go for it if he doesn't get it from you?  It may be difficult at times, but he's all you have, and you're all he has.  Don't deny each other.  Sounds obvious, but it isn't.  And have fun!

sponge baths oh yes sponge baths shared regulary several times a day they are fun

It seems you have been together long enough to make it work already, just remember one thing PATIENCE.Good Luck and never lose faith in our COWBOYS!

BigDaddyBodine:

OK here goes.........IMO !  The three most important things in a marriage.  ( In no particular order )

1. Trust

2. Communication

3. Sex

Lacking in any of those depts. will put a strain on a marriage.  If you think sex is not important, I would say that infidelity is probably the # 1 marriage killer.  Money doesn't make my top three because it should be covered under communication !!  That's my take !

Best of Luck To You Guys !!!!!!!

I'd agree with these 3 and would like to add 1 more compromise.  This may not apply to everyone but my wife and I are very different so we have to compromise somethings. 

Ware Wolf:

BigDaddyBodine:

OK here goes.........IMO !  The three most important things in a marriage.  ( In no particular order )

1. Trust

2. Communication

3. Sex

Lacking in any of those depts. will put a strain on a marriage.  If you think sex is not important, I would say that infidelity is probably the # 1 marriage killer.  Money doesn't make my top three because it should be covered under communication !!  That's my take !

Best of Luck To You Guys !!!!!!!

I'd agree with these 3 and would like to add 1 more compromise.  This may not apply to everyone but my wife and I are very different so we have to compromise somethings. 

This is some good stuff, and I just want to add:  Consideration.  If you both can learn to condsider the other one's feelings at all times, it makes it much easier. 

Make it a habit to be nice to each other no matter if you feel like it or not.

Kiss goodnight and good morning and never ever ever start sleeping on the couch.  It gets easier after the first time.

Close the bathroom door.  For respect and privacy.

Support each other in all things.  If you disagree, take it home.  Public disagreements only make it worse and can be demeaning and cause resentments.

When you have kids, join forces.  Support each other and discuss disagreements about raising them in private.

Try to leave jealousy out of the picture.  It can be hard.  If someone is going to cheat, your being jealous is not going to stop it and may encourage it.

Have alone time, such as guys nights and girls nights.  Very few people can spend every minute of every day together.

Spend time doing what the other likes, even if you don't particularly care for it.

Try not to get angry and say things you don't mean.  Often these things can come back to haunt you.

Don't expect perfection.  Remember, you're not a princess(probably), so don't expect a prince.

Eat sit-down meals together.

Don't take it out on him.  When you have a bad day, come to him for support instead of using him as a punching bag.

Don't expect him to know what you are thinking/feeling.  Only I have this ability.  Joking, of course.

Don't forget to laugh.  Humor can dissuade the foullest mood from rearing its ugly head.

Overlook the small stuff.  Things about him will annoy you sooner or later.  Before you complain, decide whether it's worth it or not.

If you are having problems, try to think about the long term.  Most problems go away w/i a month or two.  Just ask yourself:  "Will I still be mad about this in a week?  a month?  a year?

Always try to see his side of the picture.  It can be difficult, but putting yourself in his shoes might help you to see the solution.

Do small things to let him know he is important.  But, be sure what you are doing will be important to him.  I mean, don't take him to the mall and shop for 6 hours to show him how important he is. 

Don't forget that marriage is work, and it must be treated w/ delicacy and love. 

When you toot and fluff the covers over his head, light a scented candle.  Hehe.

I hope you two have a wonderful life together.

KsKBoys:

Ware Wolf:

BigDaddyBodine:

OK here goes.........IMO !  The three most important things in a marriage.  ( In no particular order )

1. Trust

2. Communication

3. Sex

Lacking in any of those depts. will put a strain on a marriage.  If you think sex is not important, I would say that infidelity is probably the # 1 marriage killer.  Money doesn't make my top three because it should be covered under communication !!  That's my take !

Best of Luck To You Guys !!!!!!!

I'd agree with these 3 and would like to add 1 more compromise.  This may not apply to everyone but my wife and I are very different so we have to compromise somethings. 

This is some good stuff, and I just want to add:  Consideration.  If you both can learn to condsider the other one's feelings at all times, it makes it much easier. 

Make it a habit to be nice to each other no matter if you feel like it or not.

Kiss goodnight and good morning and never ever ever start sleeping on the couch.  It gets easier after the first time.

Close the bathroom door.  For respect and privacy.

Support each other in all things.  If you disagree, take it home.  Public disagreements only make it worse and can be demeaning and cause resentments.

When you have kids, join forces.  Support each other and discuss disagreements about raising them in private.

Try to leave jealousy out of the picture.  It can be hard.  If someone is going to cheat, your being jealous is not going to stop it and may encourage it.

Have alone time, such as guys nights and girls nights.  Very few people can spend every minute of every day together.

Spend time doing what the other likes, even if you don't particularly care for it.

Try not to get angry and say things you don't mean.  Often these things can come back to haunt you.

Don't expect perfection.  Remember, you're not a princess(probably), so don't expect a prince.

Eat sit-down meals together.

Don't take it out on him.  When you have a bad day, come to him for support instead of using him as a punching bag.

Don't expect him to know what you are thinking/feeling.  Only I have this ability.  Joking, of course.

Don't forget to laugh.  Humor can dissuade the foullest mood from rearing its ugly head.

Overlook the small stuff.  Things about him will annoy you sooner or later.  Before you complain, decide whether it's worth it or not.

If you are having problems, try to think about the long term.  Most problems go away w/i a month or two.  Just ask yourself:  "Will I still be mad about this in a week?  a month?  a year?

Always try to see his side of the picture.  It can be difficult, but putting yourself in his shoes might help you to see the solution.

Do small things to let him know he is important.  But, be sure what you are doing will be important to him.  I mean, don't take him to the mall and shop for 6 hours to show him how important he is. 

Don't forget that marriage is work, and it must be treated w/ delicacy and love. 

When you toot and fluff the covers over his head, light a scented candle.  Hehe.

I hope you two have a wonderful life together.

Great Stuff KsK,  all of that is so true.

You reminded me of my three worst nightmares in your post, though.  You read my top 3 staying married list, so here is my 3 worst nightmare list.  (Again, in no particular order)

1.  Getting burned in a fire

2. Getting ate by a shark (or any carnivore)

3. Going shopping with 2 or more women..............