Guys are simple.   We need 4 things.  Sex, food, ego stroking(no pun intended), and sports.

Every relationship is different.  Someone above said fighting is necessary.  Maybe for some.  My wife and I never fight.  We talk, instead, which is what I highly recommend.  Our favorite time to talk is in the morning over coffee, at which time we talk about our plans and dreams.  Try a coffee shop, maybe, as drinking booze and talking often leads to things being said that shouldn't.

As far as total honesty, yes and no.  There are some things that just don't need to be said.  A good example is each other's past relationships.  Too often I've seen couples talk about their past trysts, and it causes problems.  A lot.  Your lives started when you two got together, and the past doesn't need to be brought up.  For the most part. 

KsKBoys:

Guys are simple.   We need 4 things.  Sex, food, ego stroking(no pun intended), and sports.

Every relationship is different.  Someone above said fighting is necessary.  Maybe for some.  My wife and I never fight.  We talk, instead, which is what I highly recommend.  Our favorite time to talk is in the morning over coffee, at which time we talk about our plans and dreams.  Try a coffee shop, maybe, as drinking booze and talking often leads to things being said that shouldn't.

As far as total honesty, yes and no.  There are some things that just don't need to be said.  A good example is each other's past relationships.  Too often I've seen couples talk about their past trysts, and it causes problems.  A lot.  Your lives started when you two got together, and the past doesn't need to be brought up.  For the most part. 

right. never bring up that you have had 4 husbands prior and you kill them all after 6 months of marriage. thats always a deal  breaker. 

 My wife and i have been married 11 years. Eight of those years she has suffered with  RSD ( Reflex Sympathetic Dystophy), a nerve disorder, and is now battling *** cancer. My advice to you is let all the little and sometimes even the big things slide off your back because when it comes down to it, You will still always have each other, and the time will come when you think you can't stand anymore, just look into their eyes and you will know you can.  There are worse things out there to worry about than all the little petty arguments combined. BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER. 

rocketman:

 My wife and i have been married 11 years. Eight of those years she has suffered with  RSD ( Reflex Sympathetic Dystophy), a nerve disorder, and is now battling *** cancer. My advice to you is let all the little and sometimes even the big things slide off your back because when it comes down to it, You will still always have each other, and the time will come when you think you can't stand anymore, just look into their eyes and you will know you can.  There are worse things out there to worry about than all the little petty arguments combined. BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER. 

Sorry to hear that dude. I hope she wins that battle. 

rocketman:

 My wife and i have been married 11 years. Eight of those years she has suffered with  RSD ( Reflex Sympathetic Dystophy), a nerve disorder, and is now battling *** cancer. My advice to you is let all the little and sometimes even the big things slide off your back because when it comes down to it, You will still always have each other, and the time will come when you think you can't stand anymore, just look into their eyes and you will know you can.  There are worse things out there to worry about than all the little petty arguments combined. BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER. 

Hope she makes it through okay....I'm praying!

Thanks for all the advice, guys (and girls ).  Keep it coming! 

You'll all enjoy the fact that I just ordered my garter offline....Cowboys material, lined in navy blue organza; a small silver football is tied with navy and silver ribbon on the front

CowboyGirl1983:

Thanks for all the advice, guys (and girls ).  Keep it coming! 

You'll all enjoy the fact that I just ordered my garter offline....Cowboys material, lined in navy blue organza; a small silver football is tied with navy and silver ribbon on the front

As far as tips, always remember that...

The man controls the remote -- there's nothing wrong with watching separate tv's if you don't share similar interests in shows, but if you watch together, then the man needs the remote.
The man does the driving.  ALWAYS
Just because the man wants a night or two a week to hang with his buds, does not in any may mean that his love, admiration, and desire for his wife is in any way diminished.
The man doesn't care about window treatments, house plants, table runners, bedroom sets, etc.  Nor do we care to see pictures of it in magazines, online, etc.  Take care of that bit of shopping on your own.
If the man does something that upsets you, then please, please, let him know instead of just assuming that he should be able to figure it out on his own.  No pouting.
The man should be consulted BEFORE you make plans for the two of you to get together with your family.  This obligation holds for the man and his family, too.
The man is fully aware of when the grass needs to be mowed, and he will get around to mowing it when he can.  He does not need to be reminded.
The man is willing to help, but he may not always realize where he might be helpful.  It is okay to ask him to help (cooking, cleaning, etc.) and by all means ask instead of getting resentful that he doesn't help.

McLovin:

CowboyGirl1983:

Thanks for all the advice, guys (and girls ).  Keep it coming! 

You'll all enjoy the fact that I just ordered my garter offline....Cowboys material, lined in navy blue organza; a small silver football is tied with navy and silver ribbon on the front

WTF is organza???  It sounds like a sexual disease.

As far as tips, always remember that...

1) The man controls the remote -- there's nothing wrong with watching separate tv's if you don't share similar interests in shows, but if you watch together, then the man needs the remote.
2 )The man does the driving.  ALWAYS
3) Just because the man wants a night or two a week to hang with his buds, does not in any may mean that his love, admiration, and desire for his wife is in any way diminished.
4) The man doesn't care about window treatments, house plants, table runners, bedroom sets, etc.  Nor do we care to see pictures of it in magazines, online, etc.  Take care of that bit of shopping on your own.
5) If the man does something that upsets you, then please, please, let him know instead of just assuming that he should be able to figure it out on his own.  No pouting.
6) The man should be consulted BEFORE you make plans for the two of you to get together with your family.  This obligation holds for the man and his family, too.
7) The man is fully aware of when the grass needs to be mowed, and he will get around to mowing it when he can.  He does not need to be reminded.
8) The man is willing to help, but he may not always realize where he might be helpful.  It is okay to ask him to help (cooking, cleaning, etc.) and by all means ask instead of getting resentful that he doesn't help.

Organza is a very sheer material....lol....one of those things I assumed you guys knew....look where that got me...HA!

Thanks for the advice.  I numbered your advice to comment:

1) HA....we share.  He knows better.  And I get the control on Sundays.  He doesn't care as much about the Cowboys winning or what other games are on as I do.
2)  True.  He drives me nuts when I drive.
3) He just spent 3 days in Louisville with his fraternity brothers/ groomsmen/ etc for a bachelor party weekend and I didn't say a word (or at least not too many).
4) Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Then he can't complain when I spend more money that he wanted!
5) Oh, he knows when I'm mad....I don't keep things to myself....hahahaha
6) Got that one down
7) We have an apt right now, he doesn't have to mow
8) So what happens when I ask and he still doesn't help?!??

LOL...you guys are great!

Cook for him.

He toils all day at work and when he comes home, a nice cooked meal would be just terrific.

Kihan:

Cook for him.

He toils all day at work and when he comes home, a nice cooked meal would be just terrific.

CowboyGirl1983:

McLovin:

CowboyGirl1983:

Thanks for all the advice, guys (and girls ).  Keep it coming! 

You'll all enjoy the fact that I just ordered my garter offline....Cowboys material, lined in navy blue organza; a small silver football is tied with navy and silver ribbon on the front

WTF is organza???  It sounds like a sexual disease.

As far as tips, always remember that...

1) The man controls the remote -- there's nothing wrong with watching separate tv's if you don't share similar interests in shows, but if you watch together, then the man needs the remote.
2 )The man does the driving.  ALWAYS
3) Just because the man wants a night or two a week to hang with his buds, does not in any may mean that his love, admiration, and desire for his wife is in any way diminished.
4) The man doesn't care about window treatments, house plants, table runners, bedroom sets, etc.  Nor do we care to see pictures of it in magazines, online, etc.  Take care of that bit of shopping on your own.
5) If the man does something that upsets you, then please, please, let him know instead of just assuming that he should be able to figure it out on his own.  No pouting.
6) The man should be consulted BEFORE you make plans for the two of you to get together with your family.  This obligation holds for the man and his family, too.
7) The man is fully aware of when the grass needs to be mowed, and he will get around to mowing it when he can.  He does not need to be reminded.
8) The man is willing to help, but he may not always realize where he might be helpful.  It is okay to ask him to help (cooking, cleaning, etc.) and by all means ask instead of getting resentful that he doesn't help.

Organza is a very sheer material....lol....one of those things I assumed you guys knew....look where that got me...HA!

Thanks for the advice.  I numbered your advice to comment:

1) HA....we share.  He knows better.  And I get the control on Sundays.  He doesn't care as much about the Cowboys winning or what other games are on as I do.
2)  True.  He drives me nuts when I drive.
3) He just spent 3 days in Louisville with his fraternity brothers/ groomsmen/ etc for a bachelor party weekend and I didn't say a word (or at least not too many).
4) Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Then he can't complain when I spend more money that he wanted!
5) Oh, he knows when I'm mad....I don't keep things to myself....hahahaha
6) Got that one down
7) We have an apt right now, he doesn't have to mow
8) So what happens when I ask and he still doesn't help?!??

 

LOL...you guys are great!

 

Congratulations on your engagement and marriage to be. Have you ever seen that movie Serendipity? Well my life is nothing like that, it's full of challenges, arguing with my wife and having to deal with my job. I actually have a decent career but it could be better. But I wouldn't trade having my kids for anything, that's the fun part of the marriage. It ain't easy but life isn't easy. If you lived with your partner then you should have a good idea of who your marrying, some people get married without living together and find it's 180 from the person they thought they were getting with. And I'm not sure how old you guys are, but sex is always important even after 10 years I still have to make sure to keep the wife happy, and I must say I'm doing fine in that dept. Me and my wife have gone through alot of BS, alot. But the key to a strong marriage is not giving up on each other. Too many people give up way too easy, and find a reason to want to leave. I think after passing the "7 year itch" we are back to being "happy" and that's the most important thing.

CowboyGirl1983:

Organza is a very sheer material....lol....one of those things I assumed you guys knew....look where that got me...HA!

Thanks for the advice.  I numbered your advice to comment:

1) HA....we share.  He knows better.  And I get the control on Sundays.  He doesn't care as much about the Cowboys winning or what other games are on as I do.
2)  True.  He drives me nuts when I drive.
3) He just spent 3 days in Louisville with his fraternity brothers/ groomsmen/ etc for a bachelor party weekend and I didn't say a word (or at least not too many).
4) Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Then he can't complain when I spend more money that he wanted!
5) Oh, he knows when I'm mad....I don't keep things to myself....hahahaha
6) Got that one down
7) We have an apt right now, he doesn't have to mow
8) So what happens when I ask and he still doesn't help?!??

 

LOL...you guys are great!

1.  By September, she quit walking and/or going to the gym.
2.  All that freaky stuff that she acted like she really enjoyed doing stopped by about the second night of the honeymoon.
3.  Once a month, we have to go to "supper club," with her stupid friends, which is great for her but sucks for me.  I have absolutely NOTHING in common with her friends' husbands.  They don't watch sports, they drink wine instead of beer, and they get offended by things that i find funny.
4.  Her mother is constantly calling and/or stopping by for no apparent reason at all other than to drop hints about how our second bedroom sure would make a great nursery.
5.  I was saving up for a four wheeler, but now i'm paying off a $2000.00 headboard because some dumbass on dallascowboys.com told her i don't care how she decorates the house.
6.  I'm lucky if get one night a month to hang out with the boys.  Every time i try to do something, she reminds me how "generous" she was by letting me go to a three day bachelor party in Louisville before we got married.
7.  She pouted for three solid days one time because i forgot to lower the lid, and she ended up with her butt in the bowl in the middle of the night.

McLovin:

CowboyGirl1983:

Organza is a very sheer material....lol....one of those things I assumed you guys knew....look where that got me...HA!

Thanks for the advice.  I numbered your advice to comment:

1) HA....we share.  He knows better.  And I get the control on Sundays.  He doesn't care as much about the Cowboys winning or what other games are on as I do.
2)  True.  He drives me nuts when I drive.
3) He just spent 3 days in Louisville with his fraternity brothers/ groomsmen/ etc for a bachelor party weekend and I didn't say a word (or at least not too many).
4) Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Then he can't complain when I spend more money that he wanted!
5) Oh, he knows when I'm mad....I don't keep things to myself....hahahaha
6) Got that one down
7) We have an apt right now, he doesn't have to mow
8) So what happens when I ask and he still doesn't help?!??

 

LOL...you guys are great!

You sure make things sound real rosy now BEFORE the wedding, but i'm gonna drag up this thread this time next year, and we want your husband to comment on how things are REALLY like.

1.  By September, she quit walking and/or going to the gym.
2.  All that freaky stuff that she acted like she really enjoyed doing stopped by about the second night of the honeymoon.
3.  Once a month, we have to go to "supper club," with her stupid friends, which is great for her but sucks for me.  I have absolutely NOTHING in common with her friends' husbands.  They don't watch sports, they drink wine instead of beer, and they get offended by things that i find funny.
4.  Her mother is constantly calling and/or stopping by for no apparent reason at all other than to drop hints about how our second bedroom sure would make a great nursery.
5.  I was saving up for a four wheeler, but now i'm paying off a $2000.00 headboard because some dumbass on dallascowboys.com told her i don't care how she decorates the house.
6.  I'm lucky if get one night a month to hang out with the boys.  Every time i try to do something, she reminds me how "generous" she was by letting me go to a three day bachelor party in Louisville before we got married.
7.  She pouted for three solid days one time because i forgot to lower the lid, and she ended up with her butt in the bowl in the middle of the night.

Dude, I'm sorry.  Is this going to work for you?  How long you guys been married?