Kihan:

Cook for him.

He toils all day at work and when he comes home, a nice cooked meal would be just terrific.

and just what pray tell do you think she is doing? also for those women who are toiling away all day long with the kids. all i can say is my hubby got a taste of my life when my gramma died and he was left here by himself 4 a week. he no longer thought i was watching soaps and eating bon bons lol. 1 year later i was bed-ridden for 3 months preggers with our second. and the appreciation grew in thricefolds lol. and no i didn't yell at him when my princess came home from school with her shirt on inside out and backward. i did roll my eyes and luckily her 1st grade teacher knew the situation and rolled with it too,  atleast she was dressed and clean and had her lunch packed

 

walk a mile in each others shoes or keep your mouth shut. would be another good piece of advice.

McLovin:

CowboyGirl1983:

Organza is a very sheer material....lol....one of those things I assumed you guys knew....look where that got me...HA!

Thanks for the advice.  I numbered your advice to comment:

1) HA....we share.  He knows better.  And I get the control on Sundays.  He doesn't care as much about the Cowboys winning or what other games are on as I do.
2)  True.  He drives me nuts when I drive.
3) He just spent 3 days in Louisville with his fraternity brothers/ groomsmen/ etc for a bachelor party weekend and I didn't say a word (or at least not too many).
4) Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Then he can't complain when I spend more money that he wanted!
5) Oh, he knows when I'm mad....I don't keep things to myself....hahahaha
6) Got that one down
7) We have an apt right now, he doesn't have to mow
8) So what happens when I ask and he still doesn't help?!??

 

LOL...you guys are great!

You sure make things sound real rosy now BEFORE the wedding, but i'm gonna drag up this thread this time next year, and we want your husband to comment on how things are REALLY like.

1.  By September, she quit walking and/or going to the gym.
2.  All that freaky stuff that she acted like she really enjoyed doing stopped by about the second night of the honeymoon.
3.  Once a month, we have to go to "supper club," with her stupid friends, which is great for her but sucks for me.  I have absolutely NOTHING in common with her friends' husbands.  They don't watch sports, they drink wine instead of beer, and they get offended by things that i find funny.
4.  Her mother is constantly calling and/or stopping by for no apparent reason at all other than to drop hints about how our second bedroom sure would make a great nursery.
5.  I was saving up for a four wheeler, but now i'm paying off a $2000.00 headboard because some dumbass on dallascowboys.com told her i don't care how she decorates the house.
6.  I'm lucky if get one night a month to hang out with the boys.  Every time i try to do something, she reminds me how "generous" she was by letting me go to a three day bachelor party in Louisville before we got married.
7.  She pouted for three solid days one time because i forgot to lower the lid, and she ended up with her butt in the bowl in the middle of the night.

I just about peed my pants laughing at that one.

It'll be interesting for sure....we don't live together (parents are way against it), so it'll be an adventure to say the least starting out!!!

And PS....our mothers both will live 4 hours away.  Thank the Lord for that (for his mother...I wouldn't mind if mine lived closer....lol j/k)

CowboyGirl1983:

McLovin:

CowboyGirl1983:

Organza is a very sheer material....lol....one of those things I assumed you guys knew....look where that got me...HA!

Thanks for the advice.  I numbered your advice to comment:

1) HA....we share.  He knows better.  And I get the control on Sundays.  He doesn't care as much about the Cowboys winning or what other games are on as I do.
2)  True.  He drives me nuts when I drive.
3) He just spent 3 days in Louisville with his fraternity brothers/ groomsmen/ etc for a bachelor party weekend and I didn't say a word (or at least not too many).
4) Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Then he can't complain when I spend more money that he wanted!
5) Oh, he knows when I'm mad....I don't keep things to myself....hahahaha
6) Got that one down
7) We have an apt right now, he doesn't have to mow
8) So what happens when I ask and he still doesn't help?!??

 

LOL...you guys are great!

You sure make things sound real rosy now BEFORE the wedding, but i'm gonna drag up this thread this time next year, and we want your husband to comment on how things are REALLY like.

1.  By September, she quit walking and/or going to the gym.
2.  All that freaky stuff that she acted like she really enjoyed doing stopped by about the second night of the honeymoon.
3.  Once a month, we have to go to "supper club," with her stupid friends, which is great for her but sucks for me.  I have absolutely NOTHING in common with her friends' husbands.  They don't watch sports, they drink wine instead of beer, and they get offended by things that i find funny.
4.  Her mother is constantly calling and/or stopping by for no apparent reason at all other than to drop hints about how our second bedroom sure would make a great nursery.
5.  I was saving up for a four wheeler, but now i'm paying off a $2000.00 headboard because some dumbass on dallascowboys.com told her i don't care how she decorates the house.
6.  I'm lucky if get one night a month to hang out with the boys.  Every time i try to do something, she reminds me how "generous" she was by letting me go to a three day bachelor party in Louisville before we got married.
7.  She pouted for three solid days one time because i forgot to lower the lid, and she ended up with her butt in the bowl in the middle of the night.

I just about peed my pants laughing at that one.

It'll be interesting for sure....we don't live together (parents are way against it), so it'll be an adventure to say the least starting out!!!

And PS....our mothers both will live 4 hours away.  Thank the Lord for that (for his mother...I wouldn't mind if mine lived closer....lol j/k)

Living together before marriage is one of the best ways to find out if you belong together.  If you're having sex anyway, what difference would it make? 

KsKBoys:

Dude, I'm sorry.  Is this going to work for you?  How long you guys been married?

8 years.  My wife doesn't like to cook, but i do, so i do all the cooking and usually all the kitchen cleanup afterward.  I hate washing clothes, so she does the laundry and the routine house cleaning.  We equally take care of the kids.  I was responsible for all the yard work, but i hired a lawn service to take care of that.  Now, she wants to hire a maid, but i won't let her. LOL  I have no four wheeler, but i do have a damn fine bedroom set, complete with an armoire and a full length mirror.  I learned early on to put the toilet seat down, so i'm automatic now. 

Basically, every post in this thread has had some good advice in it.  It really all boils down to being considerate of each other and not taking the other person for granted.  Don't forget to laugh, and don't forget to let them know that you love them.

First off, CONGRADULATIONS!!!       I can honestly say there is nothing like dating another cowboy fan.  Now you know your home will not be divided.  My advice would be to have a lot of patience.  Always laugh and have fun.  I recently got engaged myself and I found that being able to compromise with each other is the key.   Always be considered of the other person feelings.  Love and consideration with carry you and long way  

 

McLovin:

KsKBoys:

Dude, I'm sorry.  Is this going to work for you?  How long you guys been married?

8 years.  My wife doesn't like to cook, but i do, so i do all the cooking and usually all the kitchen cleanup afterward.  I hate washing clothes, so she does the laundry and the routine house cleaning.  We equally take care of the kids.  I was responsible for all the yard work, but i hired a lawn service to take care of that.  Now, she wants to hire a maid, but i won't let her. LOL  I have no four wheeler, but i do have a damn fine bedroom set, complete with an armoire and a full length mirror.  I learned early on to put the toilet seat down, so i'm automatic now. 

Basically, every post in this thread has had some good advice in it.  It really all boils down to being considerate of each other and not taking the other person for granted.  Don't forget to laugh, and don't forget to let them know that you love them.

I think the worst one is that Supper Club thing.  I always hate when I'm forced to be around yuppies w/ no sense of humor, or a strange one if they have one at all.  And not liking sports.  Never could understand that one.

KsKBoys:

McLovin:

KsKBoys:

Dude, I'm sorry.  Is this going to work for you?  How long you guys been married?

8 years.  My wife doesn't like to cook, but i do, so i do all the cooking and usually all the kitchen cleanup afterward.  I hate washing clothes, so she does the laundry and the routine house cleaning.  We equally take care of the kids.  I was responsible for all the yard work, but i hired a lawn service to take care of that.  Now, she wants to hire a maid, but i won't let her. LOL  I have no four wheeler, but i do have a damn fine bedroom set, complete with an armoire and a full length mirror.  I learned early on to put the toilet seat down, so i'm automatic now. 

Basically, every post in this thread has had some good advice in it.  It really all boils down to being considerate of each other and not taking the other person for granted.  Don't forget to laugh, and don't forget to let them know that you love them.

I think the worst one is that Supper Club thing.  I always hate when I'm forced to be around yuppies w/ no sense of humor, or a strange one if they have one at all.  And not liking sports.  Never could understand that one.

Hate those clubs stay away

saynepsycho:

Kihan:

Cook for him.

He toils all day at work and when he comes home, a nice cooked meal would be just terrific.

and just what pray tell do you think she is doing? also for those women who are toiling away all day long with the kids. all i can say is my hubby got a taste of my life when my gramma died and he was left here by himself 4 a week. he no longer thought i was watching soaps and eating bon bons lol. 1 year later i was bed-ridden for 3 months preggers with our second. and the appreciation grew in thricefolds lol. and no i didn't yell at him when my princess came home from school with her shirt on inside out and backward. i did roll my eyes and luckily her 1st grade teacher knew the situation and rolled with it too,  atleast she was dressed and clean and had her lunch packed

 

walk a mile in each others shoes or keep your mouth shut. would be another good piece of advice.

I can see how my statement can be misconstrued. But please be assured the message I meant to convey is not derogatory in any way.

Just an advice for a newlywed couple. =/

KsKBoys:

much easier. 

Make it a habit to be nice to each other no matter if you feel like it or not.

Kiss goodnight and good morning and never ever ever start sleeping on the couch.  It gets easier after the first time.

Close the bathroom door.  For respect and privacy.

Support each other in all things.  If you disagree, take it home.  Public disagreements only make it worse and can be demeaning and cause resentments.

When you have kids, join forces.  Support each other and discuss disagreements about raising them in private.

Try to leave jealousy out of the picture.  It can be hard.  If someone is going to cheat, your being jealous is not going to stop it and may encourage it.

Have alone time, such as guys nights and girls nights.  Very few people can spend every minute of every day together.

Spend time doing what the other likes, even if you don't particularly care for it.

Try not to get angry and say things you don't mean.  Often these things can come back to haunt you.

Don't expect perfection.  Remember, you're not a princess(probably), so don't expect a prince.

Eat sit-down meals together.

Don't take it out on him.  When you have a bad day, come to him for support instead of using him as a punching bag.

Don't expect him to know what you are thinking/feeling.  Only I have this ability.  Joking, of course.

Don't forget to laugh.  Humor can dissuade the foullest mood from rearing its ugly head.

Overlook the small stuff.  Things about him will annoy you sooner or later.  Before you complain, decide whether it's worth it or not.

If you are having problems, try to think about the long term.  Most problems go away w/i a month or two.  Just ask yourself:  "Will I still be mad about this in a week?  a month?  a year?

Always try to see his side of the picture.  It can be difficult, but putting yourself in his shoes might help you to see the solution.

Do small things to let him know he is important.  But, be sure what you are doing will be important to him.  I mean, don't take him to the mall and shop for 6 hours to show him how important he is. 

Don't forget that marriage is work, and it must be treated w/ delicacy and love. 

When you toot and fluff the covers over his head, light a scented candle.  Hehe.

I hope you two have a wonderful life together

This is very bad advice. An open bathroom door is the cornerstone of a succesful marriage. Next thing you know we'll be going back to twin beds like in "I love Lucy". 

 Best of luck!

Cowboys1966:

Well she’s a Cowboys fan so that is a great start.  I have to agree with some of the other posts.  Communication is big, talk and talk often.  Sex is also important, make time for it even when you have kids and are tired.  I have two and we both work but we still have fun in the bedroom.  Do things with her that she enjoys and vice versa.  Trust is paramount.  Compromise is the key.  When you are single you can do whatever you want.  Marriage is a partnership; my wife is my best friend as well as my lover and the mother of my children.  You give up a lot but you will gain much more.  I don’t miss my single days at all.  Hope this helps and Congratulations on your big day.  Good luck. 

 

Not to be rude or anything....but I was the girl in the relationship that started this post....

And you're damn right I'm a Cowboys fan; he won't even watch games with me I get so into them!!!!  (Yell/ scream at the TV; coach from my couch; throw things; pout for a week when they lose).

My advice would be to just say 'no', but I'm thinking that's not exactly what you want to hear ;)

Rowan:

My advice would be to just say 'no', but I'm thinking that's not exactly what you want to hear ;)

LOL   

Rowan:

My advice would be to just say 'no', but I'm thinking that's not exactly what you want to hear ;)

Too late!  Already said yes =)  At the Columbus Zoo during the Christmas lights thing, in fact =)  And I'll say I DO in 65 days

CowboyGirl1983:

Rowan:

My advice would be to just say 'no', but I'm thinking that's not exactly what you want to hear ;)

Too late!  Already said yes =)  At the Columbus Zoo during the Christmas lights thing, in fact =)  And I'll say I DO in 65 days

 

ahh I kid, I kid ... you'll be fine. You've got a good head on your shoulders, so you know this is the right thing to do! Best wishes to you both!